“Ideas are like stars; you will not succeed in touching them with your hands. But, like the seafaring man on the desert of waters, you choose them as your guides, and following them you will reach your destiny.”

– Carl Shurtz, (1829-1906), Writer and Politician

“सितारों की तरह होते हैं आदर्श; उन्हें आप हाथों से छू नहीं पाएंगे। लेकिन, समुद्र के नाविकों की तरह, आप उन्हें अपना मार्गदर्शक चुनते हैं, और उनका पीछा करते हुए आप अपनी मंजिल पा लेंगें।”

Valentine – Essence in General Life

Life, as we think is full of chaos and uncertainties. We always keep on thinking to get solutions of our day requisites. LIFE – it’s full of opportunities! Full of miseries! But in any case, you are the only hero.

Start from thinking of yourself. What matters you the most? Answer is- what happens to you, for you, may be physically or psychologically.

e.g.” India wins the match” consequence on your mind as being an Indian- “you feel happy. You will be a bit in better mood to respond any incidence”. Now consider “Spain won Euro Cup” consequence on your mind as being non Spanish- “it matters you insignificantly”.

So, for every human being, the tree of aspirations is fabricated around this simple but most important concept. This tree has four pillars-

L- Love

I- Industry

F- Fame

E- Equanimity

For everyone these all are required. The importance and priority may vary by person.

Love– A kind of internal feeling is the far most important. From birth to every stage of life it has made us feel –we are living creature.
Industry– Source of income, to fulfill living demands.
Fame– The desire to be known worldwide, others consider you as a hero.
Equanimity– Having sense of philanthropist, helping others, mercy, consulting others.

Love- Except love, the others can be achieved by once effort. You can all earn in your life but except love. It’s a matter for which we are dependent on others. You can’t love yourself. It always comes from others for you. So you have only option that do love to others, express your love to others so that you can get it from others.And mind… love is the strongest ingredient of which we are made of, how much love we have, we are so much strong. So it always makes us internally strong. Many people think that Love never changes, but you can’t deny that it loses its intensity by time. Here, a question for you- Do love changes? Yes, of course. As time passes the kind of live for a person changes… its meaning changes… its feeling changes… But every form of love adds some different flavor in your nature and behavior.

Type of Love-

Love can be categorized in 2 groups.

Subjective Love – a kind of conceptual love e.g. country love, taste

Personal Love – feelings from inner state of mind subject to person specific

Here we demonstrate the personal love in more details. This has further four sub-categories.

Infant Love-

Source: childhood love is mother’s care, her fondling etc.

Effect on personality: boldness, adeptness, percipience,

Adolescent Love– when child is 5+ child attracts toward in and out home activities

Source: siblings, games, toys, father, teacher

Effect on personality: Learning, family behavior, cleverness, argumentum, entertainment

Youth Love- this kind of love is very different from the others. For any youth- love seems to be own god. If you think about symptoms- oops! While you drink, while you eat, while you sleep, even in your dreams–your love is in your mind. Basically in life, people call it real love. Some recently researches on love have revealed that a person can fall in love more than once in life. Some thesis on youth love have deposed that this happens as the person in teen ages feels harmonic and physical changes inside body so opposite sex attraction is inducted that strengthens the will power and dedication towards a particular person.

Source: best friend, wife, special person

Effect on personality: Character, dedication, Confidence, Struggle, analytic power, planning

Family Love-

Source: children, wife, entertainment

Effect on personality: Stability, decision power, social status

Above we got enough about love.

Now

Valentine!!! –14 February

The day associated with romantic love is for anyone, who feels the youth kind of love for someone close… is best day to express. The valentine tradition, originated from west is basically on the name Christian martyrs, who were buried due to love reasons in ancient Rome. Convention is of gifting cards, heart shaped toys, doves as symbol of expression to one’s love. The valentine week, which is celebrated prior to the valentine day on February 14, consists of seven days for specific purposes.

The valentine weeks starts with rose day in which roses are presented to your sweetheart. The next day Propose day is to propose your love (if you get a slap back celebrate it as slap day), Feb 9 and 10 are chocolate and teddy days in which these are given as gifts. The next days are for promise, kiss, hug and followed by Valentine’s Day.

7 Feb Rose Day
8 Feb Propose Day / Slap Day
9 Feb Chocolate Day
10 Feb Teddy Day
11 Feb Promise Day
12 Feb Kiss Day
13 Feb Hug Day

14 Feb Valentine’s Day

Enjoy all these days. But be careful, not to hurt other’s emotions as well. Like you take care of yourself, take care of others too… But if have something to say someone then… don’t wait, don’t waste yourself in hesitation…If you love someone then it need to be told. Throw a chance. Come on, be a brave heart. Now!!! Or Never!!!

See what mere happen???

Accepted- very good

Rejected- oops!!! No worries, try again with good preparation/ impression.

Not ready? – Oh! You need to read following example-

It’s a time when Thomas Edison Elba was close to 67 years; his factory was a millions of rupees. An accident in the factory caught fire and the entire factory was burnt to ashes. At that time his factory’s insurance was very low, and they were facing heavy losses. Edison had now grown old, the fire was very sad but one thing left from his heart – “Things happen only for betterment.” All our faults turned to ashes in this factory. Now I can think of some new beginning.
Just after three weeks of passing such a big accident, he invented Phonograph, so we can learn “where there is will, there is way”. In Life so many things happen, but instead of being knocked down we should collect strength to fight them down.

Tips to care:

1. Use soft and explanatory way of discussion.

2. Presenting Gifts/ help.

3. Avoid straight No- rather use dubious words like: why not we do so, does not seems good, isn’t it so funny, it makes me feel strange.

4. Smile is worth hundred gifts – in love be much careful because it has full of meanings for other person. It conveys message without saying a word. So even if you are talking with a friend smile means you are willing to impress and be in happy situation.

5. Show your dedication/ moral support in your expression for your beloved .

Be A Rose, Suppose you are your SuperMan…

Power of mind

Life, as we think is full of chaos and uncertainties. We always get used of thinking solution of each of our day requisites. Rarely we think of ourselves for our internal state of mind, our personal assessment/ progress and life long. May be its worst or best time in your life, take a pause from yourself, think about yourself.. So A good piece of advice is to spend 15 minutes on ourselves every day… if you can’t do everyday..its cool, don’t do.. do when you feel uneasy; you found yourself around difficulties, you are not getting solution of your problem which you can’t share to others… Now its time to share with yourself… There is a psychologist in you, who will give you right advice…
you can find the time as per your convenience, I recommend it to be after awaking first in morning before you leave your bed. second preferable time is before going to sleep when you are in bed; finished from day activities lying on bed. Close your eyes and start entering in your world. where only you are there… Only and Only you.. all things are happening around you and only for you. its supremely required for inner peace. Forgot the outer world, forgot your personal longings/ stresses/ difficulties nothing will remain as time passes and remember-
the ETERNAL TRUTH :

“Every problem hath a solution”
Smile in yourself… as you can.. as you can…
think you are Rose… think u r made of pink color…
you are the best, you are pure human kind…
your all impurity has been vanished from bright rays of sun as they fall on your skin.
Pretend you are becoming glorious and super glorious.
If you can go through it as its all happening to you.. you will feel you are SuperMan…

You are able to face any gigantic challenge for you .. you can make any your dream come true with proper, time framed effort.